Strangers, Again

In the beginning of these stages, people start of as strangers but not everyone makes it out of being strangers. There are two solutions to a relationship; you either get married or you break up. As sad as this sounds, we really do not have a choice. We have one heart, one body and one mind. Therefore, we only have one choice to share one person for "THE ONE". 

You know the saying "there's plenty more fishes in the sea"? 
Well, I'm glad I found my MIKfish.

War

After all the "lovey dovey" moments in the honeymoon stage and after all the farts you have given out, we come to "WAR". 

This stage is basically fighting back and forth. I'm not saying EVERY relationship is like this, but I'm pretty sure most relationships are.

This is a stage when you know you have your significant other wrapped around your fingers so losing them is not even an option in your mind because you KNOW you have them. This declares for war. You guys fight more often, argue more than usual and agree to disagree. 

Now, this "WAR" can be healthy for a relationship. If you look at it this way, people fight to prove a point, people fight because they want a solution to a problem that something or someone has made. So why do two people that love each other fight? Because they do not want to give up. If one person does not fight for the other and just simply walks away, then that person was not for you because no one would want to see their love ones go. So you fight. You fight to be with them. You fight to keep them. 

Fighting is like the flame of a candle. You try to keep that flame going as long as it can, but if you blow it out then the light eventually disappears. You have to leave the flame in order for the wax to melt. You cannot just throw unfinished business. 

Comfort Zone

In a relationship, there is a stage called "THE COMFORT ZONE". It is where two people are so comfortable with each other, that they fart in front of each other without having to worry or warn one another. Yes, this may sound great and yes this is awesome, but every good thing has a bad side. 

There are ups and downs to the comfort zone.

Up side:

1. The feeling of comfort and being able to trust the person with anything.
2. Having and getting to do anything comfortably because you know they wouldn't mind.
3. Not being judged with whatever you want to do.

Down side:

1. KNOWING the person too wellthat you become so predictable.  
2. BEING too comfortable that you already know what is going to happen. 
3. EVERYTHING you do wrong WILL be judged because you should have known better.

I can say that Mikhail and I are in our honeymoon stage, but I can also see the comfort zone. I really do not mind the comfortless we give each other because no matter how comfortable we get, I still feel the honeymoon. 

The only thing I'm scared of, is being predictable. 

Honeymoon Stage

The best part of a relationship is being in the honeymoon stage. I believe this is also the happiest stage because everything is perfect. You have the person you want and you are more in love and loved than ever. 

In January, it will be Mikhail and I's three years. Until this day, it amazes me that we are still in the honeymoon stage. It makes me wonder sometimes on why we are still in this stage. Maybe it's because we understand each other and the feelings are always 100% mutual. Or maybe it's just really a long phase that we have been in for awhile. No matter what it is, I hope it doesn't go away. 

My biggest fear is being in the comfort zone. 

Lovers

Strangers become friends then eventually become lovers, but this is not always 100% accurate. The reason for this is because we are only meant for ONE person. That one person has to fit all the standards that look for. Some people may not have standards, but there is still some things they look for. If you're lucky enough, you fit the standards of the person you want to be with, that is how you know it is real. 

Growing up and beaming more surrounded with boys, I started to have more and more standards. There were things I did not like and there were things that I loved in guys. Some of my few standards is guy with ambition, a guy that is family oriented and a guy who can treat my like a queen. I have these standards because I know that I can give those standards in return. I am ambitious, family oriented and I can positively make a man feel like a king.

When it comes to Mikhail, he has every standards that I look for. Some of the standards I had, he set for himself without even knowing. Yes, he has standards that I do not like, I call them flaws. The flaws he has are the ones I learned to love. That is how I knew that my feelings for him were real because his flaws is what I learned to accept. 

I now love him everything about him. 

Friends

Every relationship has its beginning. You start off by being friends. Friendship is the number one thing that can create a relationship because it is either you stay friends or become more. 

That is where Mikhail and I both started, as friends. We got to know each other before we made something out of each other. We had a lot more things in common than we thought. People have different lives, but it is funny how people also go through the same things together. 

The more I got know Mikhail, the deeper I feel in love with him. I saw and he saw the true colors of ourselves. There were times where we did not talk, but we always seemed to get back to where we left out. We were, you can say, inseparable. Funny thing was, we were just friends still. We were friends, but we acted as if we were together because we obviously wanted to be together. 

Strangers

Love is very important to this universe. We were born love and die loved. Being alive includes to love. Everyone goes through life differently, but we all surely end up in the same place. 

Our whole life consists of looking for "the one". We set standards for our "perfect person". There are millions of millions of people in this whole world and the chances of us meeting the right person sounds almost impossible. 

I am 20 years old, I have only traveled from the Philippines to the USA. I barely got around, but I believe that I truly met my soulmate. 

It's ridiculous how you can fall so much in love with a person who was once a stranger to you. You know nothing about this person, but you end knowing every little single thing about them. Once you get to know them, they become a part of you. That's the beauty of love, is that, not only do you find "the one", but you two become "ONE". 

7 Stages Of A Relationship

Every relationship goes through seven different stages. 

1. Strangers
2. Friends
3. Lovers
4. Honeymoon Stage
5. Comfort Zone
6. War
7. Strangers, again

Obviously, it is not guaranteed that every relationship goes through all seven stages, but it does happen. There are two different answers to a relationship; it's either you get married and stay together or you break up and move on with the memories.